As I've wrestled with how to bring this website back to the here and how, I've also wrestled with another component I felt needed to be added - one that can stand alone on its own. One that fits well within the parameters of Caring with Marsha.
This website will always include information to help us understand and better support the widows, and widowers, in our lives. It will also include information for anyone suffering profound grief, a grief none of us knew existed until we found ourselves in the absolute thick of it.
As a caregiver to my husband, my mom, and for four years my dad as they each had been hospitalized any number of times before coming home on hospice, as well as becoming my sister with special needs full-time caregiver, I know what it is like to get lost in caregiving others. To not be able to find ways to take care of me beyond survival modes.
During those times I searched for ways to better care for myself. All I could find were variations of "Top Ten Ways of Self-Care" sort of posts. They contained things like: have a quiet cup of coffee to start your day; take a long, hot candlelit bath, etc. These are lovely ideas for someone who needs a break after putting a little one down for the night. They don't even begin to touch what someone in the deepest trenches needs!
As I'm catching up from a three-and-a-half-year hip injury that wouldn't allow me to sit for long without it screaming in pain, I'll be continuing to gather and organize information on all facets that will fit here, so it may be a bit before regular posts become, well, regular!
A friend challenged me to get away for a night or two at a cabin taking my junk journal supplies with me. I think I will instead take my laptop, some notebooks, my phone full of notes, and anything else that will help me get everything under control and organized, then get to writing!
Please be patient as I work my way back, and know I AM COMING BACK with loads of genuinely helpful info for widows/widowers/grievers and for "advanced" self-care tips!
